Arthur c. Brooks He is an American writer and professor, he classes Harvard He is the author of a dozen books on the idea of happiness. In a recent interview, Brooks has revealed the secret they share Happy couple.
The teacher interviewed Batcast SophisticationDirected by Writer Mark Manson, and said: “Happy weddings are classified by calling ‘Company Love’, No ‘Emotional Love’“.
According to Brooks, when two people love, their brain enters into an ecstasy that is comparable to an addiction. The Dopamine, oxytocin and serotonin They drown the nervous system in the flood and create a feeling of pleasure, connection and well -being.
This is what Brooks calls ’emotional love’, which exists the idealization of other things. Chemical changes in our brain helps to create a strong connection so that couples will have Time together to reproduce. However, this phase is temporary: according to various investigations, the effect of these materials decreases over time.
At that time many relationships face a challenge: there are those who confuse the end of interest in love, on the other hand, They manage to cross the ‘liquor abolition’ When finding something very valuable for a long time.
Then Brooks explains what is going on: ”The best friendship you want to come in five yearsAnd the best friendly magic. “According to the author, love does not disappear when it is called ‘Spark’, but with complicity and confidence, it becomes a very stable and deep feeling.
The scientist defines ‘the love of the company’, which allows you to feel safe in the relationship: “Every night you see TV”Brooks explains, who believes that couples are underestimating the usual life or their relationships.
According to Brooks, this type of love is based on the determination that this couple is not only a lover but also a great friend. That friendship is defined Further to the way the problems are facedBecause they are not: it is not wanted to compete with each other, win discussions or prove who is right.
Instead, it is selected For complete support: “Even if you are the world, it doesn’t matter how much you (your partner) think that you are a complete stupor, you will still defend yourself.”
